The courage of facing LONELINESS...

(I'm inspired even though i haven't smoked a lot... just watched an episode of "Friends", the episode where Rache and Ross broke up... and I'm currently listening to the "Sound of Music" soundtrack... I really love classic movies...)

I'll start by this thought:

"To love means you must have courage... for it opens you to hurt... coz when it fails, you fall flat on your face..."

Yes it's true... to love means you gotta have guts... and be ready to get hurt...

But this blog is NOT actually about NOT to love.

This blog is about NOT to be in a ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP.

As I've said in my blog "The Fallacy of Love": loving is used for a SINGLE person... when two people LOVE each other, it's already called a romantic relationship.

People nowadays, especially the young ones, fell in love because they NEED to be secure. They NEED someone to call their love/honey/sweetheart/gf/bf. They NEED someone to hug them, someone to kiss them, someone to LOVE them.

They go into a relationship just because of selfish reasons. They just need a stable companion.

They NEED to forget their LOST love... a REBOUND... or they get in a relationship with a person because that person loves them... and they just love in RETURN...

They get into a relationship because of the ASPECT of LOVE..

They tend to forget that the MAIN reason for having a relationship is really... to LOVE that person.

They then justify their relationship by learning to LOVE their partners. But do they really learn to love?

People are hard to get contented. They have their own standards of a PERFECT partner. Like Prince Charming, or a Princess.

But hey, let's be realistic... it's HARD to find someone like that!

So when they are in a relationship, they first justify that by learning to love their partner... then all is fine...

But then... after a while.. they see their partner's IMPERFECTIONS... then they tend to justify again...

And then they can't accept their partner's faults...

Then they will find someone/something new... they get tempted in finding someone/something else...

Then they fall out of love...

Wash, rinse, repeat...

The loop of love... "a lifetime venture"... a lifetime of foolishness...

And people DO this for their SELFISH reasons... their self-satisfaction... self-preservation if you will... and then justify it because of self-righteousness...

And they DO this WITHOUT even a single consideration for their partners...

They search for their OWN happiness... not minding their partners' happiness...

Loving is giving your partner's happiness.. am I right???

Sheesh...

It's better to be an ATHEIST and have MORALS than a "believer" that has NO MORALS...

If a person YOU LOVE can't be yours, BE CONTENTED...

And DON'T EVER FORCE YOURSELF TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE...

Don't get tempted in someone who LOVES you...

Don't FALL for the TRAP of LOVE just because you NEEDED to...

It's courageous to love...

But it's MORE courageous to face LONELINESS...

For you will face the torment of living alone... without someone to love... someone loving you back...

And that takes a LOT of guts...

Learn to LOVE someone and NOT having them...

Than "loving" someone just because you needed to...

Because really.. you'll be easily tempted... and you will be the cause of a failed relationship...

It's better to be ALONE than hurting another person...

IT'S BETTER TO BE LONELY THAN BREAKING SOMEONE ELSE'S HEART.

"When you promised to love, refuse to let it die..."

Sheesh, tell THAT to the Marines... coz most of the time, that PROMISE will be broken...

(Thanks Lourdes and Meech for inspiring me on this one.)