An Epilogue to a romantic relationship

It's been a very long time since I've last posted a blog. I haven't been motivated to write things. There are lots and lots of ideas that comes to my mind, but I'm so lazy to write them down... hehe...

Anyway... I just want to share something I had in mind for a few months already...

When I was silent in the blogging world, I was busy with my lovely girlfriend... YES, I had a girlfriend... ^_^

We've been together for quite sometime... a year and a half actually... but we went our own separate ways because it's the best for both of us...

With that in mind... let me share some knowledge that I have gained...

1. LOVE is not the only factor in getting into a relationship. If you love someone, yet you think you two can't get together well, you can't stand each other's personality, you want that person to change and vice versa, then it is not logical if you two get together in a romantic relationship. It's already a losing battle to begin with. You may think that it's a good risk to get into, but in the end, you might hurt yourself and your partner. It's better to stay as friends. Besides, if you love someone, it's better to give that someone the happiness he/she deserves, even it YOU are NOT in it.

2. If you've been dumped (or your partner breaks up with you), and you want him/her back, don't be foolish to DO EVERYTHING just to get that person back. He/She has the right to have the decision to break up with you. And even if you do things (hurt yourself, disregarding your work, suicide, seek pity, etc) just to get that person back, and he/she gets back with you, it's NOT because your ex loves you, but because he/she doesn't want you to get hurt. Eventually, it might just lead to another breakup. A cycle would follow till you become matured.

3. Better accept the fact that the relationship already ended. You two have tried your best. It just wouldn't work out.

4. YOU CAN'T CONTROL PEOPLE TO LOVE YOU. You could only hope. And even if you have gained their affection, you must work for it to last.

5. If you love someone, set him/her free. You may not give her the love and affection he/she deserves. Accept your faults.
Accept reality.

6. Cherish the times you were together. Value your former relationship/s.

7. Learn from your mistakes. If there was a break-up, you two are at fault. Just don't let the same thing happen in your next relationship.

8. Sometimes, it's better to be single. You're free to focus on things that are more important (family, career).

I still love my former girlfriend... but I know she will be more happier without me around... I'm giving her more headaches and problems... ^_^