Super Hero Syndrome

I have a yahoo messenger status since late last month that goes like this...

"Exists only when needed"

I always want to entertain everybody... get the people around me pleased...

I always want to help people out... give objective and sound advices... make a good legacy if you will...

I make some people special... be sweet to them as much as i can...

I always want to be remembered as a person that's very helpful, sweet, humourous and fun to be with...

But you know what... it sometimes takes it toll...

That the people that you help... will just leave you after you help them...

You sometimes feel that you don't get appreciated...

That you're just there to be USED...

When all you want to be is a good friend... or at least a good acquaintance...

Let's look at the definition of friendship in Wikipedia:

"Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behaviour between two or more social entities. This article focuses on the notion specific to interpersonal relationships. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them."

Nice definition from Wikipedia.

You must take note of the terms: co-operative, mutual, share, reciprocating...

Really... friends share a mutual understanding...

Or is the definition full of crap?

Let's see friendship in its raw form.

Very raw form.

You need friends for what?

To be pleased? To have activity partners? To have someone there to listen to you? To have someone to be with you and you'll not feel alone? Etc.

In short... you need a friend to be USED for something that you like to do/happen.

Don't burn me on this one... I don't intend to use the term USED in an immoral/bad manner... (or if you do... you're a shallow person and shouldn't be reading my blogs... ^_^)

In raw form... friendship is created due to the reason that people USE one another just to reach their simple goals (or even the bigger ones).

You can see it in practice... your so-called friends needs something from you... you give it to them... and when you ask something from them... sometimes they do... sometimes they don't...

It's up to the person if he/she would be USED by you... (vice versa)

Pathetic huh...

And then I look back at the definition of friendship... hay... it's just an idealistic definition...

Anyway...

You don't expect people to be pleased with you. You don't expect people to accept you fully.

You don't have to please everybody. You don't have to make everyone to accept you.

Everybody has their own way of thinking. That's why we're all unique.

But if you feel lonely because no one understands you, it's fine.

Because there's always someone who will...

It's yourself.

Sometimes... you can excel by doing things alone...

In the yahoo messenger status I've stated above... in the last few days... I have added a line afterwards that says...

"...the super hero syndrome"

Because super heroes exists... only if we need them...