The Rat Race of Love

Love, most of the time, is like a Rat Race...

In a wheel where a rat would run inside... going nowhere...

Like a cycle... endless... repeating...

You'll go in a cycle that goes like this...

1. Fall in love
2. Secure and be happy inside the relationship
3. Grow tired
4. Fool around or your partner fools around
5. Try to save the relationship
6. Give up
7. Dump or be dumped... plus the ensuing poetic dumping spiels... (i.e "we aren't meant to be" bullshits)
8. Wash... Rinse... Repeat

A friend of mine told me that we need to be in this cycle over and over again to find love. We can't give up on loving. We go back to the cycle to learn from it. And we won't let the same thing happen to us again...

Hmm...

If we have learned something from the cycle... we shouldn't go back to the same cycle again... coz if we did... we really didn't learn from the last one.

We go back to the cycle with new strategies... new knowledge... yet, we still go back to the same thing... and the same result...

I really pity those people who love just to be loved back...

They are easy pickings... they'll be easily used by the ones they like/love...

Why can't they have a strong and independent personality?

They just go again and again through the same cycle... without even knowing why they were used... or why the relationship didn't work out...

And they even defend their weak hearts when they were asked why they let themselves be fooled...

And after they were fooled... they just go back through the same process... never learning... never understanding the realities of life...

Sometimes... you just grow tired... and think you won't go back in the cycle...

Gonna take a rest from loving...

And then you see a beautiful being... the person you only could have dream of...

And then you realize... you fell for that person... and that person reciprocates your feelings...

And then you were happy... maybe you're in the happiest moment of your life...

You want that feeling to last "forevermore"... and asked that person, "how did you know, I needed someone like you in my life?"

(Was playing that two songs while i'm creating this blog... sorry for the song plugs)

And then... you wake up...

And it's all just a dream... that may not happen again...

You woke up thinking that you should go back... like (the late) Christopher Reeves did in the movie "Somewhere in Time"...

But to no avail... you won't...

You've came back in the cycle because you let it happen...

You've let yourself be fooled or hurt because you CONSCIOUSLY let it happen...

Sometimes... the stupid but resilient and stubborn heart wins against the reasoning of a logical mind...

Bummer...

A friend once told me that "you'll live longer if you have no emotions"...

I guess that's the way to go for me...

Like Robert Kiyosaki said...

"Go out from the Rat Race"