A LOVE guide... hope it would help you...

If you REALLY love SOMEONE...

...love that person more than yourself. don't love that person for a certain reason (money, fame, pity, etc.) except REAL LOVE. needing/wanting that person doesn't tell if you really love him/her. you don't seek LOVE to satisfy your own interests. instead, it should be YOU who would satisfy that person's security and happiness.

...be contented. accept his/her faults. for that person is only just a human being, having imperfections. understand that person's philosophies, for it is the basis of his/her character. a change for the better is good, but make that person realize it by himself/herself. have loyalty.

...that person's past shouldn't matter. be thankful that the person you're loving was an outcome of all the experiences he/she had in the past.

...have TRUST. the basis of LOVE is TRUST.

...fight for it. never ever take LOVE for granted. give IMPORTANCE to the relationship.

But if there comes a time when a relationship fails...

...have an outburst. anger is natural, coz it is the 1st defensive mechanism of a person. but don't let yourself engulf into it. don't let the suffering and pain destroy you.

...cry. it's healthy. it washes away all the sadness in you. let the tears lessen your self-anguish. don't blame yourself nor that person. a relationship lasts if both of the parties wants it to last.

...have a little bit of apathy. it helps to wash away the emotions. but don't let it become of you. apathy is just an escape. but if you do, you could never...

...learn from it. even though it's painful, there's always something positive that would come out from it. a failed relationship means that both parties made a mistake, so learn from it and avoid doing that mistake again.

...have faith. if you have a God (and I don't), seek help from it. and ALWAYS hope that you will have a brighter future ahead of you.

...be happy. yes that's right, be happy. if you TRULY love that person, it's his/her HAPPINESS that counts, even though it would make you suffer. be happy that he/she would now have a chance to find happiness that he/she has lost in you.

...be thankful. for having that person's love and care for a period of time. cherish the moments you've been together. finding REAL LOVE is hard, so be thankful that you have experienced it.

...let go. holding on isn't good. give that person his/her freedom. if that person comes back, then you and that person are really meant for each other. but if not, don't despair. life MUST go on.

(sorry if i have some grammatical errors... had smoked 2 packs of cigarettes and haven't slept for 36 hrs while i'm writing this... i guess my mind really flows when nicotine is on my brain, hehe)